Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on from ancient times. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with evils, cause despair, and other problems. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, finances, age difference, faith background, remorse, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet wives dating.
Why do men have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek affairs. I suppose mostly though it is only the human state, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us flee the real world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to turn the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos society has erected against married dating. For lots of individuals the yearnings will beat their worries and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your family or anyone else? You would need to minimize the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest grouping, colossal really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a regular cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the husband is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a male I truly appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us men of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is vanished, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The first reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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